Drama, Drama, Drama… Toxic behavior at its best.

Drama, drama, drama…. There seems to be no end to the amount of drama that surrounds us all. Whether we  create it ourselves, invite it into our homes, watch it in the media or associate with it from friends and relatives,… Drama has become a part of life. Now the question is how do we break away from this headache called drama?…  Do we hide in caves away from the world? Do we become antisocial and limit all contact with others? Do we destroy all forms of media? What do we do? Seriously how do we handle this dilemma? 

Why is drama so ingrained in our culture? It seems as if men and women are not comfortable with a world without ‘dramatic undertones‘.  The media helps feed this fascination with created conflicts and exaggerated situations but that is still only one medium. And of all the things that we can change removing the influence of dramatic media from our lives is the easiest thing to do. Some times the drama isn’t the issue but the toxic people in our lives are the real cause for alarm.

• Drama in the media: There is nothing wrong with watching reality shows and different movies and programs, unless you start to believe that the manufactured scenes are really real and begin to emulate them or associate their theatrics with everyday life. ‘Real Housewives’,  is fine as a show but most women do not act the way that the women on there do. We don’t respond to the same issues in the same manner and it is not really much of a coincidence to see daily arguments over something mundane or who has the bigger ego. We all know this yet we tune in everyday for our fix of drama. We read celebrity gossip  as if the people we are reading about are really influencing our lives…. Most of us don’t care if Angelina Jolie likes blue daffodils…. Or that Rhianna frequently goes with out underpants….. I just don’t care but the rest of society does. If we want to beat the beast called Drama , we need to be willing to step outside of the gossip mill and concern ourselves with what is really important in Our lives. 
• Friends and relatives: We all have that one friend or family member that is forever gossiping or getting into one conflict after another. They are the ones talking about this and that person. They bring drama to us and we willingly hold the door open for them. They are toxic for our well being and yet we do not see it. These Toxic people don’t have to bring gossip. Their poison can be something as simple as forever involving us in the chaos that is their lives. They can surround us with negative energy and being under the guise of friend or family we are not so quick to build up our guards. Even though we may assume that we can separate ourselves from the drama of others most of us have a hard time doing so. Think about it if you are in a relationship or friendship with someone and no matter what every time you are around them you are inundated with negative vibes then that person may be toxic for you. Not BAD however. There is a difference. A bad person is not good for you either mentally, physically , psychologically or all the above. They are not meant be in your life period. Whereas a toxic person may not mean you any harm personally. They are simply corrosive to your psyche and may need to be either removed or limited access.
• Toxic You: What is the toxic person is you? Are you always taking offense and creating drama for yourself? Are you the one spreading lies and rumors? Are you the one angry or jealous of another simply because they are different than you? Are you constantly at odds with others over something that you said? Are you the center of most of the conflict around you? If you answered yes to most of these, if not all, then it really doesn’t matter who is toxic around you since you are your biggest cancer. Find out why you are so full of venom and change yourself.

Drama is not reality, nor is it healthy. Removing toxic behavior from yourself first and then from the rest of your life will leave your eyes unclouded by conflict. You might like how simple life can be if you cleanse yourself of the poisons and negative energy that it brings. You more than likely will be able to finally breath freely. Change is never easy but in this case it is well worth it.